I (like many girls) was molested as a very young child by 1 of my uncles. I frankly, don’t really remember it. The culprit always weirded me out and it wasn’t until I was 9ish that I was even told, so that I could protect my sister from him. The last time I saw him I was in jr. high.
I have checked with someone I trust, it did happen. I went through the whole police report thing and there was court but because he was so young nothing really happened (he is 11 years older than me). Jump to a few months ago. My mom said that he told her to say hi to me for him. I didn’t know which was creepier: him or my mom who was willing to deliver a message for him. A couple of days ago my mom gave me his number because he would like to talk me and she told him she would.
So now what do I do? Lose his number? But the other side is: What if he wants to apologize? He supposedly doesn’t know my new last name so he can’t just call me. I forgive him without ever talking to him but that doesn’t mean I want to interact. But I don’t want to deny him the ability to apologize and for me to tell him I forgive him. And then there is the concern that I am just going to be inviting more crazy into my life.
By the way, he lives on the other side of the country so it isn’t like I would be inviting him to be around my kids.
What to do???
*Edit: I have never talked to him about this confronted him about it. I don’t know if that is what he wants to talk to me about. My extended family is good at ignoring these kind of things.